EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

I always have wondered how can I take control of my emotions and why is it so difficult for me to do it? The only thing that I know is that the process to improve my emotional intelligence is getting better. I remember when I was a child sometimes, it was so difficult to me to express my emotions. It was impossible to me to identify my feelings. I always have been shy but I am working on myself to be better. The process has been hard for me; I have to admit that, but I never give up. In this essay first, I will explain how I learned to take control my emotions; then, I will tell you why it is important to maintain good relationships; and finally, I will explain how having emotional intelligence changed my life.

When I was a child, I had a terrible experience expressing my emotions. I was eight years old, it was my first day at a new school. I was nervous and scared, but at same time I was so excited to make new friends. But the problem was that I did not know how express my emotions. When I returned to my house, I was angry with my parents. My mom scolded me, because she always wants the best for me until today. But I was not comfortable. I just wanted to run away and shout. At that time, I did not know how to be empathetic with others and I only cared about what I wanted and felt, regardless of whether it was the best for me. After that, I decided to start talking before acting. Sometimes it is better to think about things before, because we can hurt other with words. But, that first day was not nice for me, I felt uncomfortable, nervous and did not want to talk to anyone. I felt alone and that made getting angry with my parents the best way to express what I was feeling. Maybe it was not the best way to do it. But that is why I always try to do my best.

Over the years, I have realized that to have good relationships, I must have emotional intelligence. I have always been shy, which is something that has not helped me when I have to meet people. But I was also able to realize that in order not to hurt people I love. I need to be more empathetic with them, be more responsible with my feelings. For me, it is important to keep people I love close. Which makes me think, I must have self-criticism and know to determine how their actions affect me and how my actions can affect them. My family is the most important thing; I have learned from them every day. They are my motivation to be better, because they have become my safe place. It is because of them that I try to establish healthy relationships.

Having emotional change my life, I am more grateful for the things I have. I am able to identify my emotions and I always try to do my best. It has brought me many good things; they have made me better day by day. I am not perfect and I do not try to be. I always make mistakes, but I try to learn from them. Honestly, it has been hard. But it has allowed me to know myself, focusing on my professional and personal growth. I could notice the changes when my cousin was born. He was diagnosed with Autism; we have to be patient to help him express his emotions. It is hard for him to do it, but I have always been very empathetic, and I always try to understand him and give him his space when he needs it. He is five years old and I have been his safe place. I am the only person he can and wants to talk to. My aunt is not a bad mother, but nobody teaches us how to deal with things like that.

In a nutshell, having emotional intelligence allows us to have more rational thoughts, and to avoid acting on impulse. It helps us make decisions. It is not just thinking positive; it is also being realistic by maintaining good relationships and taking control of our emotions.